Collective Memories – Online Short Group Constellations

Who we are in the present is knowingly and unknowingly influenced by the energetic field of influence that we belong to and that we come from. Our history lies coiled within us. The untold stories of our ancestors are present in our blood.

For me, constellation is a way to access the hidden stories and the silenced voices of the ancestors. It is easy to accept a version of events that is passed down from one generation to the next, from one person to the next, but with each telling the story can change and those missing parts of the story can be held unknowingly by us.  

The collective memory classes are powerful ways to break open the ‘single story’ that we may be holding of our ancestors and give voice to the voiceless within the untold stories. As their silence is broken you begin to release your own voice too.

Stories are powerful. Giving language to a silenced story gives a place to it.

In these online constellation gatherings we will be working with collective memories within a created constellation field to explore the entanglements within our family and ancestral dynamics.

We will be stepping into collectively themed stories that are relevant for each one of us.

The classes will be on zoom and will be a combination of group and paired constellation. Your zoom link will be sent to you after booking your place.

There is more information about what to expect from online constellation events here.

The Land Underneath Your Feet
Monday 20th September 7-8.30pm UK time (1-2.30pm central time). £25.

September’s topic focus is ‘The Land Underneath Your Feet’. This is the second class exploring an ancestral story connected to Native American land loss and forced displacement. This time we are looking at the Cherokee in Georgia and the legacy of colonialism that changed everything. We will be looking at the ‘cost of belonging’ for those ancestors as well as the legacy for us, the descendants in the present. This story will be resonant for land loss and forced displacement in other countries and cultures, it is a deep wound that has a significant impact on belonging.

The Forgotten children
Monday 18th Oct, 7-8.30pm UK (1-2.30pm central) £25

In so many of our collective memories the children are unseen in the face of so much trauma. 
It is a pattern that is repeated from generation to generation. In October’s collective memory class we will be stepping into a story from Britain’s Child Migrants. The origins of the scheme go back to 1618 and it ended in 1970. 
In the post-war era children were shipped from the UK to Australia, New Zealand, Rhodesia and Canada, often without their families knowledge.
The scheme was exposed in the 1980s and since then the silenced stories of the children and their suffering have gradually begun to be heard.
This theme of ‘forgotten and unseen children’ is still very relevant today and it is so important to bear witness to their stories.

Untold and Silenced Stories of Uganda: Uncovering Wounds of Colonialism 
Mon 1st November, 5.30-8.30pm UK (12.30pm-3.30pm Central)
£45 With Nikki Mackay on Zoom.

From 1894 to 1962 Uganda was under British colonial rule. The period following independence in 1962 has seen many violent conflicts including dictatorship under the regime of Idi Amin.

Uganda has the youngest population in the world and they are living in the midst of continuing political conflict.

The intention of this collective memory class is to explore the untold and silenced stories of the ancestors, the legacy of empire and the cost of belonging on the land for the descendants in the present.

The wounds of colonialism are often silenced and denied place by the single story that is told from the perspective of colonisation. It is a deep, tender, uncomfortable and painful wound with stories of loss of land, voice, autonomy, beliefs and a denial of the place for grief held within the forbidden wounding.

My hope with this class is to create a space to sit with the voiceless in these stories that haven’t been told, and to begin to break some of the silence.

When we collectively witness stories that have been silenced in this way we move beyond the ‘single story’ version that displaces and dehumanises. We honour the souls within the untold stories and welcome those souls back home to belonging. Their voices belong too. We also discover the parts of ourselves that are resonant with the voiceless, whether that is through similar voicelessness in our ancestral stories or through the need to deny the involvement of our ancestors in such stories. Shame and voicelessness within our ancestral stories are not benign, we – the descendants in the present – are still living the cost of the silence. Sitting with and witnessing the stories allows us to come home too.

The Cost of Divorce in the Ancestral Field
Mon 22nd November, 7-8.30pm UK (1pm-2.30pm Central) £25

In western society over half of all marriages end in divorce and divorce is now generally thought of as commonplace. But it is a very recent phenomenon. It is only in the last few decades that it has been possible for women to petition for divorce; in certain faiths it was forbidden and would having been a devastating and shameful event for both families involved. This historical narrative of divorce trauma is why, even in cases of an amicable divorce, there is such a strong response from the surrounding family fields to divorce.

The reasons for a strong field response to divorce are complex. Perhaps in some cases it is the first divorce in the family that has been petitioned by a woman. In previous generations this would have been impossible. Divorce would have been perceived as being dangerous, particularly for the woman, and the loss of name, land, place, and belonging can appear as an inherited consequence of divorce with a pull to unseen, silent, excluded and forbidden souls in the ancestral field. This can result in a sense of punishment and shame flowing silently through the field of influence.

This collective memory focus will tend those spaces of the shamed, shunned, displaced and abandoned souls in the field. The end of any relationship is painful but with a legacy of unseen and voiceless souls entangled with divorce and break-ups in your family field, it can be devastating.

When hopes and dreams are dangerous
Mon 20th December, 7-8.30pm UK (1pm-2.30pm Central) £25

In our collective memories we can become tangled up with the ancestral field of the unseen, forgotten and voiceless souls. The weight of their lost and unlived years, the abandoned and lost dreams, and the hope that all would turn out differently can be a significant entanglement in our field of influence. This dynamic shows up in many collective memories. The inheritance of it means that we can unconsciously be carrying beliefs that “It isn’t safe to dream”, or that “Hope is dangerous”. That has a significant impact on how we live our life, what feels safe to reach for in our dreams, as well as a fear that what we manage to achieve will be snatched away from us. Tending that place for hope and dreams is so important and honouring what has been lost for the previous generations is an offering.

Breaking the Vow of Silence
Mon 24th January 2022, 7-8.30pm UK (1pm-2.30pm Central) £25

We grow around our ancestors’ wounds. Their silences. Their pain. We hold those things as if they are our own. They become familiar to us. Our ability to belong and to be ourselves, is informed by their experience of belonging and their beliefs, as well as their experiences. When our own beliefs are in opposition to our family or community, we can become displaced as we unconsciously try to balance that within ourselves. These beliefs can be deeply and silently held within us informing and influencing all aspects of our lives. Some times they take the form of agreements or vows, such as agreements to hold the pain or silence for others, or agreements to silence our own story and give place to someone else’s. 
We will work with this collective theme to help you identify it within your own field and begin to break the silences you have been holding.

Lost, Forgotten, and Forbidden Love
Mon 21st February 2022, 7-8.30pm UK (1pm-2.30pm Central) £25

February’s collective memory topic is ‘Lost, Forgotten and Forbidden Love’.The historical narrative of the untold stories of love and trauma is entangled through each of our family fields. Within every single relationship there is a conscious and unconscious relationship promise. Even when a relationship ends, the relationship promise can remain entangled and have an influence on our present and future moments. This can become our invisible inheritance and deeply influences our relationship with love, along with our ability to love and be loved.
We will step into a collective memory to allow you to discover where you may be holding promises, broken promises, ungreived grief and unlived dreams. Creating a space to honour what was and a new space for what could be.

Magdalene Memories
Mon 14th March 2022, 7-8.30pm UK (1pm-2.30pm Central) £25

March’s collective memory focus is the ‘Untold stories from the Magdalene Laundries‘. A significant collective memory impacting the maternal line and field.These institutions were punitive and brutalising in nature. The girls and women who entered the system were often given different names, they were isolated in their trauma, silence was the rule, talking and friendships were actively discouraged and punished. The passing of time wasn’t marked so they lost a sense of how old they were along with who they were. It was a system run on shame and shaming, with lack of physical touch, love and care. The loss of self was incredible and the legacy of that collective memory touches us all in one way or another. I have seen this ancestral memory emerge in so many individual sessions. This is the 3rd collective memory class on this topic and in this one we will be focusing on the deep wound between the children and mothers through an individual ancestral story.