Paternal Line Class

 
 

The next intake for the Learning School is planned for 2025, please email to be added to the waiting list.

I have been working deeply to co-create Tending Hope, a community of connection and liberation with the intention and purpose of Tending Grief and Hope of the Entanglements Held by the Land for Re-membering and Liberation.  The work I have been undertaking over much of the last decade has been entrenched in the realms of collective entangled memories. The memories passed from generation to generation and held in our bodies, the land, the water and deep within our souls. I am taking time to weave this new knowing and unfolding into the Learning School and re-imagine the offerings and teachings.


The Lands in your Blood
When we begin to explore our family dynamic through the lens of constellations, the role of the mother can appear to have a greater influence on the entanglements upon us within those dynamics.

It can be easy to become entrenched in constellations involving the mother and the maternal line. The connection with our mother is significant for our emotional life; our ability to receive and give love is deeply influenced by her. The mother carries more ‘weight’ in terms of the family entanglements relating to emotional connection and emotional belonging, but the father and the paternal line are influential on our physical belonging and our sense of place in the world.

Any entanglements within the relationship with our father can be destructive, because they fragment our physical belonging and sense of self.

An interruption to the connection with our father, and to the paternal line and field as a whole, is an interruption to belonging, both within our family of origin and our outer world connections. Whenever belonging is interrupted, it changes how we are seen and heard by others in our everyday life, and how we feel when we interact with others.

The influence of land has a great impact on the paternal line and field. Memories are held within the land and they can hold particular sway over the paternal line and the connection with the men in our life. These memories are held within us, passed silently from one generation to the next and they become stirred at points of transition, choice and change that are in resonance with our ancestors and their fields of influence.

The aspects that consistently appear within constellations involving land and belonging of any kind are around: displacement, the excluded, perpetration, the forbidden and silence. These are highly emotive and heavy-hitting aspects that are found scattered at various points in each of our family’s histories. The ‘silence’ that characterises the experience of the paternal within general constellation exploration appears as a collectively rooted entanglement within the psychohistory of the land. It’s the ‘un-screamed scream’.

The overall topic for our 3-month course is the significance of the Father and the Father’s line. When children carry the burdens of those that go before them they not only sacrifice themselves and their own place, but they prevent the dead from moving on and finding peace. The pattern is perpetuated. Our sense of belonging, desires, drive and ambition have strong connections with our Father and the Father’s line. The roots of addictive behaviour and self-destructive patterns can also be found here as this is a link to the Father’s ancestral lineage. When the Father (or other strong male from the masculine line) is missing, detached or rejected then this line is weakened. Our issues and burdens about ourselves and others are potentially linked to our emotional entanglements with the Male line. Below is a brief outline of the discussion topics we will aim to cover in our time together:

Basic principles of constellation
The place of the Father and Male line within constellation
Common patterns & entanglements associated with the Father:

  • Missing men & unknown father
  • The fractured male line
  • Paternal line triangulation
  • Migration triangulation
  • The bonds of enslavement, servitude and sacrifice
  • Silence
  • Unseen & excluded me
  • Displacement from name, lineage & land
  • War
  • Roots of the patterns of depression, addiction, alcoholism
  • Influences on land, money, ‘homelessness’, lack of belonging, abandonment
  • Perpetration, violence, the unseen fates
  • Inherited secret loyalties
  • Inherited relationship promises & influence on intimate relationships

Guided individual connection with the paternal line
Group constellation exploring the above and/or outcomes of individual connection work
Individual homework assignments
Individual sessions
Optional Mentoring sessions

There will be full notes provided of the topics discussed

The group will run over a 3 month period

3 x 3hr group topic sessions
1 x 3hr Q&A and recap session
2 x 1hr individual constellation sessions
2 x 1 hr homework group sessions

Email support
Cost is £500 (possible to pay by instalments).

Contact Nikki for more information or to book your place.